Untying the Lattice - A Reflection on Liberation and Belonging

A long time ago, I made the decision not to contribute to more separation. I could see how the polarity game plays out in extremes, and I eventually I understood that my role was not to shout what was wrong but to anchor what could be new. My path has been to liberate myself first, to embody the vibration of another way of being and living, that hold heart, dignity and coherence at its core and to hold steady as that frequency finds ground.

Now, having returned to Norway to complete an important cycle of embodiment, I recognise again the thick lattice that holds this land and its people. It is like a fog, a field of consciousness woven into the very air.

This lattice is not just our custom or civility - it is a scaffold that teaches us how to move, how to speak, how to hide. It is a phase-locked consciousness grid and the quality of this lattice is made out of many things.

Part of it is recognized by what goes by the name «Janteloven», the Law of Jante, an unwritten code that whispers you are not to think you're special, you're not to think you know better, you are not to rise above or step out of line. This is nothing new. However, it is still a very real phenomenon in Scandinavia that works as a social enforcement of conformity, modesty, and not standing out, and it consistently finds new ways to express itself, which has detrimental consequences for growth, evolution and new creation.

Because what follows is often observed as this: anyone who stands out gets «cut down» like a flower that is too tall, people hide their gifts, feel shame, or collapse under social pressure, and ultimately collective blindness, that people don't see that they are trapped in inherited rules and norms.

What assists me in understanding dynamics like this is looking at what environment was present for this to evolve in the first place.

These patterns were not born of malice. They grew out of real human needs: a solidarity that ensured the survival of small, isolated communities in harsh climates, a shared ethic of modesty, and the protection that arises from sameness. They have saved lives and created social safety. But when that protection calcifies into enforcement, and continues to exist in environments that do not require this any longer, it becomes a field that punishes difference, narrows imagination, stifles self reflection and trains whole generations to doubt their inner voice.

It’s like a guardian-beast of cultural boundaries that grazes the edges of our conversations, pushes out the creatives and the curious, and alarms the herd when someone reaches beyond the pasture.

Its enforcement follows a familiar cycle. It is teachable and those who enforce the lattice rarely see themselves as cruel. They follow a sequence that often begins with ridicule, - a teasing remark or a condescending, dismissive laugh. If the one targeted refuses to shrink, it escalates into shaming: gossip, condemnation, and sometimes social, public or media attack. If they still stand, harsher tactics emerge: distortions and lies, hostility, even coordinated exclusion. And finally, discard - subtle or overt - or the subtle push that makes a life unsustainable until leaving seems the only option.

These moves are practiced, contagious, and they rely on bystanders to repeat them. That is how whole communities and institutions (and global level systems) reproduce the rules until they feel invisible and inevitable. It is a manipulation system that has worked for a long time with the goal of letting the masses police themselves into compliance.

This cycle is not always carried out by villains but by ordinary people who have inherited the script and often unconsciously keep it alive, in all aspects of life.

Let’s take a breath and center ourselves to do some self reflection.

First. To those who still overtly or subtly enforce these rules, I ask with sincere compassion: what do you gain by keeping the world so small? Is it safety, belonging, a sense of order or control? But even more importantly, what do you lose in the process - in your own creativity, in your relationships, in your children’s freedom to be unique, to be able to reflect, be resilient and use their shine to thrive and create things the world has never seen before?

I think it’s important to name the perceived gain to also be able to see the cost.

And then there are the others: the brave souls on the receiving end of this dynamic. Some remain quiet - silently sensing that something is deeply wrong, carrying the weight of being different while not yet daring to speak or not knowing how. Others step forward more visibly, embodying alternatives, raising their voices, or simply refusing to bow. Both are expressions of courage, and both are already participating in the unraveling of the consciousness phase-lock (lattice).

To honour people who in themselves anchor in a new vibration (what to many feels like a threat) is not to glorify struggle or to condone activism - for I do not wish to add to separation.

It is to recognise that they/we are mirroring how this presence is not “against” the community, but FOR its evolution. To reveal the possibility that all of us, we, are one body learning to stop rejecting our own cells.

The guardian beast - this guardian of a scripted sameness, of judgement, ignorance and entitlement - is not only at work in Norway (although especially present here). It is a pattern visible across the world, a scaffold that holds humanity in line and impedes the process of ascension into higher levels of being and living. When its grip is strong, the pressure gives rise to movements and reactions that often replicate the same separation, just in new wrapping: new labels, new tribes, new “us vs them” (me too, the woke movement, lgbtq, politics, Black Lives Matter, un-embodied spiritual communities +++). What begins as a voice of liberation can collapse back into policing and exclusion by another name. The result is not evolution but more of the same.

That is why the deeper invitation is remembrance rather than rebellion. Not to fight separation with more separation, but to cultivate coherence. To see where the rules came from, acknowledge their purpose, and then gently, insistently choose to untie the knots, with gratitude, reverence and clarity.

On the other side of these inherited rules is an ethic of freedom that is disciplined and kind. It is the freedom to feel - to let emotions guide us as an intelligent navigation system. It is the freedom to celebrate growth and to step humbly onto the path of authenticity, without fear of ridicule or shame. To be authentic is not to be loud, it is to be real. It is to stand in the ongoing, tender work of becoming who we are, integrating both our light and our shadow, and to be met there with respect rather than correction. To mature, to cultivate integrity and responsibility.

This is the ground I have worked to cultivate since I founded Human Liberation in 2015. It was not only about giving people permission to raise their voice. It was about something deeper; creating space to celebrate restoration and growth itself. To hold space for inner sovereignty, for self-reflection, and for the lived remembrance that we always have a choice. To teach how to process emotions safely and efficiently through approaching them as the divine gift they are. There is a profound realization on the other side of fear. True liberation begins when fear is transmuted and alchemized into love, when we can step onto the humble path of self awareness and inner evolution without the shadow of ridicule, shame or punishment. Although often, these are the very initiations one must go through to build resilience, devotion, self love and unity within, first.

The shift is already underway. Humanity is moving from separation to unity, from mind to heart, from fear to love. Every time someone chooses dignity over ridicule, curiosity over condemnation, compassion over silence, the lattice thins. And when enough of us do this together, the fog lifts.

What remains is not the contracted smallness of survival. It is the vastness of life fully lived.

Let us not be a nation, or a world, cutting itself down because of perceived illusory threats, that serve as distractions. Let us rather experience ourselves as one body remembering that every cell belongs and is a crucial part of the whole organism’s evolution and thrive. We can no longer afford to sabotage our own being. The shift in consciousness and of paradigm from which we operate, is already unfolding and we need all onboard in self awareness to make this journey as graceful and joyfilled as possible.

Wake up from the slumber

Remember who you are and why you are here

and walk courageously into this new era of being human on Planet Earth

I’m sending you much love

on this powerful Equinox

on our collective journey

towards higher consciousness

Maria